10 Types of Love You’ll Experience in Your Life
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You may have had your share of love experiences. But do you know the
ten types of love that you’ll definitely experience in your life no
matter what?
Love is a funny thing.
It comes in so many hues and ways that it’s almost impossible to
predict the type of love you’d experience until you actually experience
it.
But as confusing, happy or even painful as it may seem, love is still something we all look forward to experience.
Throughout your life, you’ll find yourself in many circumstances of
love, and almost all the time, you’d find yourself experiencing one of
these ten types of love.
And eventually, you will experience all these ten types of love if you choose to!
The ten types of love
Without really getting into theories and styles of love that can just
end up complicating your mind, let’s talk about real life and the
experiences you’d feel in your own life.
Read these ten types of love and if there are some types that you
haven’t experienced yet, don’t worry, it’s just around the corner.
And if you think a few types of love mentioned here aren’t really the
kind of love your mama told you about, think again, because your brain
sure does think it’s all truly an experience of love!
#1 Platonic love
Platonic love is the simplest of all types. There are
no strings attached
and no sexual intentions either. It’s pure, friendly and something we
experience from a very young age when we still don’t know why we have
the things we have inside our underwear.
The kind of relationships you share with siblings, close childhood
friends and even a few grownup friends can fall right here. Do you
remember the first time you missed a friend? That was probably your
first platonic love moment.
#2 Limerence and crushes
Ever had a crush on someone? Of course you have! The first crush is a
memorable experience, one that’s filled with confusing jolts in the
stomach, sudden urges to throw up and a stupid sense of grinning
satisfaction each time you see your crush. It’s a beautiful experience
even if it did feel like your life depended on it at that time.
Limerence, on the other hand, is rather close to a crush but much
more intense and “weird”. Have you ever liked someone madly, but didn’t
ever want to express your love for them, like a school teacher or an
actor, or even a crush? Sometimes, you may have an intense infatuation
for someone, but yet, you wouldn’t want to spoil the happy thoughts by
doing anything about it. Ever been there? [Read:
What is limerence really?]
#3 Unrequited love
Unrequited love is a love filled with heartbreaks and one that almost
all of us have experienced. It’s the dreaded one sided love, where you
like someone and you know that person will never like you back. They may
be in a relationship, or they may just use you. You find yourself
falling more in love with each passing day, even though you know you’ll
never get any happiness out of this type of love.
This is the type of love that gives love a bad name. But you know
what, it also helps you understand the real value of reciprocal love.
[Read:
What is unrequited love?]
#4 Obsessive love
Are you an obsessive lover or someone who’s addicted to their
partner? Do you feel helpless and lonely without that special someone in your arm?
Are you sure you’re not bordering on being clingy? If you’ve ever
been an obsessive lover, there’s a good chance you’ve sucked the life
out of your partner and pissed them off until they eventually left you
on the curb.
Obsessive love is usually experienced by the novices who experience
love for the first time, probably after having to deal with the scary
unrequited love. Obsessive lovers are scared, insecure, and obviously
obsessive about the relationship.
Now you may have been one or may have dated someone like this. It’s a
stage all of us experience when we’re afraid of losing someone we love.
But if you or your partner has security issues, really, there’s no hope
for a happy ending here. [Read:
Handling insecure relationships]
#5 Selfish love
Selfish love is smart. And though it involves two people to create
that relationship, selfish love also involves two people who are in love
with one person.
Your partner loves you. You love you.
Selfish love is a narcissistic love where you don’t care about your
partner or their happiness. You only care about yourself. If you ever
find yourself getting into a relationship just for the heck of it
without really falling in love with the other person, chances are,
you’re a selfish lover.
Selfish lovers are clever, scheming foxes who only get into a relationship to see what they can get out of it. [Read:
Are you being used?]
Ever dated someone just to appear cooler or achieve something for
personal gains? If you have, tick the selfish lover off the list. If you
haven’t, wait and watch yourself use someone at some point in your
life. Don’t worry, it’ll eventually happen.
#6 Awww love
Awww… that’s so cute. This type of love is the most spontaneous and
yet, the one you’ll forget the soonest. It lasts for a few seconds,
sometimes even less and some other times, a lot longer.
Do you love cats, dogs, goats… any animals at all? Or perhaps, a car
or a tree? Sometimes, all of us feel an overwhelming sense of love for
something or the other, and it doesn’t have to be a person. It’s
love at first sight,
and yet, it’s not something you’d want to sleep at night with (mostly).
We’ve all experienced the heart melting awww when we look at vacation
photos or a tiny kitten or a pup on youtube. Been there and done that,
and yes, you’ve experienced another type of love.
#7 Same sex love
Ever felt an intense burst of happiness when you see a friend of the
same sex? You’re both straight, you don’t cuddle and you don’t grope
each other. But somehow you just love this person, and you either have a
man crush or a girl crush on this friend of yours.
Same sex love is an emotion you’d feel for your friend or even a
celebrity, but it’s got less to do with sexual attraction and more to do
with awe, respect and admiration.
#8 Lusty love
Ever dated someone who got you wet with a hug? Ever had a crush on
someone who makes you want to do things to yourself when you’re alone in
bed? Yeah, you’ve experienced lusty love! [Read:
How to turn yourself on easily]
Lusty love is the type of love you experience when you lust for someone or get into a
relationship
with someone you’re extremely sexually attracted to. The first few
weeks are all about sex and the positions, and both of you need just a
few seconds of alone time to throw each other’s clothes on the floor. If
a relationship of yours revolves more around the bed and less around
trees and flowers, you’re in lusty love, my love.
#9 Romantic love
Butterflies, bliss and Louis Armstrong’s ‘what a wonderful’ is all
you need to think of when you experience romantic love. It’s beautiful,
sappy love at its best.
You feel the flutter of butterflies in your stomach, the world looks
so much more beautiful and you can’t hold that grin back no matter what
you do. You want to be with your sweetheart all the time, and even when
you’re not together, you can’t help wanting to be together.
You’re happy. Your lover’s happy. The world’s happy for you. And you’re having the time of your life! [Read:
How to know if you're in love]
#10 Unconditional love
Blessed are the lovers who experience this special type of love for
each other. It’s not easy and it’s definitely not something most people
even want to try. But if you do ever take a leap of faith, you’d see
what
true love really feels like.
Do you love someone more than you love yourself? Do you care about
your lover more than you care about anything else is the world? Chances
are, you may be experiencing unconditional love. Unconditional love is
the stuff fairy tales and romance
novels
are made of. If both of you care about each other and love each other
selflessly, you’re in the middle of a special type of love that few ever
experience, but spend all their lives looking for. [Read:
A sweet experience of unconditional love]
If you do want to ensure that you experience this tenth type of love,
take a leap of faith and truly fall back in love with someone who loves
you. Soon enough, with a bit of trust, communication and hope, you may
just live through this grand experience that dreams are made of! [Read:
25 relationship rules that count]
And there we have it, the ten types of love that you’d
definitely experience in your life, as long as you’re willing to risk a
chance and take that plunge into the waters of love. So how many types
of love have you experienced so far?
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